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I’ve got the screaming heebee jeebies or my bold plan to conquer FEAR

Some time ago, I mentioned my fear of driving over bridges. Um yeah, that hasn’t changed so much. Mostly because I’m not near any bridges except a small twelve footer near my house that doesn’t even raise a hair on my head to cross.

I can almost pinpoint when that particular fear started. Driving over an extremely high bridge with the sunlight dancing through the pretty concrete struts. It was very pretty for a few seconds, then the sunlight turned into a strobe light effect. I blinked, trying to get my bearings. I put my hand over my eyes, closed one eye. But nothing worked. Dizzy, panicked, I slowed down to about 30 miles an hour, making for a slower strobe. When I finally reached the end of the bridge, I was in tears and refused to go back over.

Except the only way back to the motel was over the bridge.

I sucked it up and did it, and luckily the sun had set by then. But the damage was done.

But how many of our fears can we pinpoint just this tightly? Very few. Some revert back to our childhood, some our growing up years. Some are inbred – fears that are passed down from our parents or loved ones.

And our fears become stronger over the years. Whereas once, crossing a bridge that spanned the Mighty Missouri river was quite daunting, now crossing a bridge that covers a four-lane highway requires some mental pushing.

As we get older, we get more fears. Fear of slipping on the ice. Seriously? When I was twelve, I would have taken a running start at it and zipped along the sidewalk. I might end up with a bruise, but… big deal. What a rush! Now I do the penguin-walk. Arms carefully outspread, little penguin steps taking me to safety.

Am I being smart? Or am I being scared?

Once upon a time, I went bungee jumping. 13 stories in the air with nothing but a little rubberband holding me to the crane. Was I being stupid? Brave? Showing off in front of a cute guy?

=) I’ll admit, it was the latter of the three.

But, jump I did. Would I do it again today? Nope. Not on a bet.

Is that being smart? Or being scared?

There’s so many fears out there – spiders, snakes, heights – that we sometimes have to choose – are we giving in to fear because we really are afraid? Because – I mean it really COULD be a tarantula! – or is it something we need to conquer to get on with our lives.

I’ve decided it’s time, time for me to put some fears to rest. Take the bull by the horns, tame the lion, beat back fear. It’s time to slide on the ice occasionally, to finish writing the book and not yell tarantula every time I see a spider. Okay, so not so much that last one. But I am vowing to myself that it’s time.

Eep. =)

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Carrie takes on the fashion world – someone call the fashion police!

I have no sense of style. I admit it free and clear. Others have informed me, sometimes gently, sometimes not, that I’m clueless when it comes to the latest fashions.

It’s all true.

At work I generally wear jeans, tennies and a t-shirt. At home, a variety of gawd-awful sweatpants and sweatshirts, most generally in non-coordinating colors.

But that doesn’t mean I can DREAM of being a fashion plate. I’d always thought if I’d had the money, if I’d had the slim, long legs, I too, would look like Cindy Crawford.

Snort.

Instead, I’m a little apple dumpling of a person. Short legs, big boobs. =) I know there’s lots of jokes to be made there, but trust me, I’ve heard them all. To such an extent I’ve become accustomed to a baggy t-shirt worn over jeans. It’s become my uniform, my size somewhat hidden. Or so I always like to think.

Believe it or not, however, I have become somewhat of a fashionista in the plus size world – at least according to Pinterest and Polyvore. At Polyvore, you can take snippets of fashion and put them together. A shirt from Penney’s, pants from Christian Dior, shoes from Zappo’s and make an entire outfit. Something you might even wear! I admit to having an absolute blast putting together outfits, and was entirely shocked when someone followed my board.

On Polyvore, I have 53 followers and over 5K views. I’m generally in the top ten views of the two groups I’m in. On Pinterest, my Plus Size board has 192 followers.

Yup, you read it right. Plus Size. Every outfit I design is made for a plus sized woman, including wide width shoes and wide calf boots. No size XS shirts are seen here. No size 2 jeans. If you’re a skinny minny, you might find the styles are awesome, but chances are – just like us plus size women have discovered in virtually every store we go into – you can’t find your size here.

Someday, when I overcome my fear of looking ridiculous, over-dressed or just plain chubby in something other than a man’s XL t-shirt and jeans, I might actually buy myself one of these outfits. I’ll get the credit card warmed up. =)

Burgundy, Brown and Gold - Plus Size

Pink and Black Fun - Plus Size

Pink Sparklies - Plus Size

Pink and White Comfy Outfit - Plus Size

Neutrals Plus Size

Plus Size Summer Dress with Peridot and Blue Accents

Plus Size Leopard Cowgirl

Cinderella at the Ball - Plus Size in Gold!

Someday.

In the meantime, take a look at this AWESOME video by Wendy (who has more fashion sense in her little finger than I do in my entire apple-dumpling body) from http://www.wendyslookbook.com on 25 ways to wear a scarf. Trust me, it’s not your average boring how to tie a scarf blah blah blah. It’s fun, fashionable and educational. =) You’ll love it.

 

What about you? Are you a fashion failure or a clothes horse??

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Looking up the Family Tree – I see Nuthin’ but Nuts

For years I’ve been intrigued by family history. Was I descended from Queen Victoria? What if I was secretly related to Elvis? Maybe one of my great great great uncles was D.B. Cooper and if I could only find the money….

I pumped my Grandma for information – who was her grandma, and grandpa, and uncle and …. She told me tons of great stories, including the fact that her grandfather had a twin, and they had married twins themselves. Cool, I thought. I’d also found out that her name wasn’t really Eula – it was Julie. Her grandpa couldn’t say Julie, so they renamed her Eula. I was hooked.

When my grandmother passed away, I found she’d kept a bunch of obituaries, newspaper clippings and birth certificates. Fascinated, I glommed on to as many of them as I could. Sure enough, there was her birth certificate with her real name. Aunts and uncles who’d changed their names over the years as they moved from Germany to the United States. Graduation certificates, marriage certificates and an old family bible. They were mine! all mine!! mwahahahaa…

Ahem.

So, I tracked back my history. Ancestry.com makes it easy. They offer hints, send you information on people who might be related to you, and let you access a virtual TON of information.

Now frankly, if you don’t care what nuts are in your family tree, this will drive you to drink and drink heavily. For me, it was an eye popper. Wanna hear the dirt? Of course you do…

One family member, who lived in Canada at the time of the Great Depression was apparently so incensed at a woman who had the audacity to wear a fur coat that she attacked her with a knife on Main Street. She ended up in the hoosegow, and later in a sanitarium for ladies.

My great-great grandparents had fifteen children.

My fourth great uncle had five wives.

My second great grandfather had three last names.

My great-great aunt founded a library that is still standing. She petitioned Andrew Carnegie to help build a library in her hometown, and he obliged. This may sound quite philanthropic of her, right? Wrong. It appears that while she was quite wealthy, and never married, that if you borrowed money from her and didn’t pay it back on time? She’d move in with you until you did. =)

When you trace back …and I mean waaaaaaaaaay back, the names become unpronounceable. Ytje. Sjoerd. Maaike. I have a friend who is Swedish who helps with some of the pronunciations, otherwise I just make up my own. Yitgee. Sherd. Makee. Close?

And when you go even further back, they switched names. Your father’s last name became your first name. Your mother’s maiden name became your last name sometimes, your first name sometimes, your middle name sometimes. And sometimes not. Makes searching a little – challenging.

If you had three or four boys, you could name them all the same name. One of my relatives had four sons all named Johan. Makes calling them in for supper easier. “Johan! Get thy rear in the cabin – now!”

One of my relatives who sailed from the Netherlands to the USA died on board ship and was buried at sea.

One of my relatives, a captain, resettled an entire village about 200 miles away when he disagreed with the way things were being run by the current mayor of the town. That man can hold a grudge.

Reading the date of birth and death – you finally realize how many children were lost in those days at a horribly young age. Sometimes entire families would have the same death date.

I have MANY MANY sets of twins in the family tree.

Looking up my ancestors has given me hours of enjoyment. When you find someone else who has researched the same limb of the tree you’re looking up? It’s like riding in NASCAR – zoom zoom zoom. Names and dates fall into place and stories come to life.

Even if they are kinda – nuts.

=)

carrie

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A Glass of Red and Hula Hoops – Absolutely They Go Together! – Cheap Date Night!

Seriously? Is it time for me to cook again? I was just there two weeks ago!

Okay, if you insist, we’re going to do something super fast and superer easy. Yes, I just made that word up.

Today, we’re making a salad. I know, I know HOW hard can it be to make a salad? Well, it’s not hard, but it’s pretty darn delicious.

Tropical Chicken Salad

Rotisserie or leftover chicken breast
Lettuce of your choice
Pineapple and/or mandarin orange bits
Mixed Nuts
Shredded Cheddar Cheese
Croutons or Chow Mein Noodles

Wash and chop your lettuce, and put in a big bowl. Heat about 1/2 cup (per serving) of the rotisserie chicken, then chop and place in the bowl. Drain the fruit and add in, along with a handful of nuts. Top with cheddar cheese and croutons, then toss and serve. You can also add in radishes, green peppers, cucumbers – pretty much whatever you’ve got in the fridge – but be careful! This salad gets BIG fast!

Smart Ass Romance - Bottums Up - Fun Drink RecipesNow we need a nice glass of heart-healthy wine to go with our heart-healthy salad right?

Well, mostly.

Try this Red Red Wine recipe on for size!

Arbor Mist Pomegranate Berry Pinot Noir (their blackberry merlot works too!)
Passionfruit Juice
Gingerale

In a tall glass filled with ice, fill half full of Pinot. Fill about 1″ from the top with juice and then add in a splash of Gingerale to top it all off.

Can it get any easier than that?

Nope.

Ok, grab a fork and your wine and lets watch a movie – Red Wine and Hula Hoops – this is a hoot! =)

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Sufferin’ Succotash! Writing about pets with the Crazy Cat Lady

Waaaaaay back when, when I first decided to become a *cough* writer, I KNEW my stories would have pets in them. Cats, dogs, frogs – an iguana. Didn’t matter, there would HAVE to be some kind of pet in the story.

Possibly it’s because I’ve lived my entire life with pets. Either my own, my parents or someone in my family has always had a pet even if I didn’t have one at the time. I can’t possibly imagine someone in one of my stories not having one as well.

There’s a variety of challenging problems that come with writing a romance while the hero and/or heroine has a pet.

1. They can’t go on exotic vacations – without finding a pet sitter.
2. They must have quality time with their pet – without the pet taking over the story.
3. They must share their innermost feelings with their pet – without looking psycho.
4. They have to show their concern and care for their pet – without actually having to change the kitty litter box or clean up vomit. (NOT good to write into a romance!)
5. They have to show they can understand their pet – the lifted brow, the sharp bark, the paw on the leg. A bit like when Lassie gave a bark and everyone knew immediately Timmy had fallen in the well. Again.

On the other hand, pets can be used to ratchet up tension, especially if the pet hates the hero/heroine. Or if they become ill. Or pet-napped. In one of my little short stories, the dog leaps in front of a car to save the little girl, and ends up with a broken leg. It honestly makes me tear up right here just typing this! But of course, the dog is fine, a lady veterinarian just happens to be RIGHT THERE, and she’s beautiful, and he’s handsome and…well, you can just see the HEA can’t you?

My first stories featured cats. Of course. =) Each of my cats will feature in a story at some point. However, my latest also features a bulldog. With a lisp. =) I haven’t actually written one with an iguana as of yet, but when I come up with an appropriate plot, nothing will stop me I guarantee you! I have a YA that features a yak. There will also be horses, possibly an enormous goldfish, possums and . . . well, the list goes on.

Do YOU use pets in your stories? If so, what are some of the challenges you’ve run across writing them in?

Maybe a story with a ring-tailed lemur . . .

*plotting*

…..=)

CCL

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